Writing your own vows and promises

If you choose to have a Wedding ceremony led by a Celebrant then you have the freedom to write your own vows and promises.

Vows are usually said when you exchange your rings and use more formal language.  Promises may be shared at any point in the ceremony and are usually very personal and reflect the unique wishes of the couple.

For some the idea of writing your own vows and promises can be a little daunting. So here are my top five tips for writing your vows and promises.

• Keep vows fairly short and focus on how you will individually support the partnership.  
• At the start of your vow state your name and then what you vow to do eg  "I, Grace vow to be your wife."
• Promises can be longer and be written in a more informal way.  You can mention more personal aspects of your relationship such as, "I promise to remove any spiders from the shower."
• Collect a few samples of vows or promises and use them as inspiration but limit the number otherwise you can become overwhelmed.
• Speak them out loud and see how they sound and make you feel.

Next week:  Writing parents' promises