Here are a few tips about writing wedding vows which might be helpful to think about before you start.
Don't wait until the last minute. Give yourself time to think and try to ensure that you have your vows written at least three weeks before your big day. This way your vows will feel fresh and heartfelt.
Make a list of all your thoughts. Start by making a list of all the things you want to include. Then work on the ideas you feel reflect your feelings best.
Don't try to include everything. Give yourself a word limit of less than 200 words. Anything you have not included can be used as a basis for a speech later or a letter which can be exchanged as part of your ceremony.
Write a draft and try saying it aloud. You might try writing two or three and see which one feels right.
In renewing the vows you made when you married, you are acknowledging the strong partnership and the bonds of friendship you share. You are looking to the future and trusting that the love you share will sustain you as a couple.
Holding a Renewal of Vows ceremony, either with just you as the couple or in front of family and friends, is an opportunity to pause and think about what it means to be married.
Sometimes, without even realising it, life can become bound up in the problems of everyday living and couples begin to drift apart.
Taking time to stop and think about what marriage means to you is a great way to rediscover the love and commitment you promised to each other on your wedding day.
“Florigaphy” or the language of flowers dates back to the Victorian times when suitors would send flowers expressing feelings which could not be spoken aloud.
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Red roses which spoke of love
Yellow roses to express joy
Red and white mixed meant Unity and undying love.
Red carnations signalled admiration
White carnations reflect pure love
White Calla lilies for beauty
However, flowers had to be fresh for a withered flowers spoke of rejection.
Sequel Wedding celebrations are not new and in many different cultures it has long been the tradition to have multiple wedding ceremonies but may people are unaware of the possibilities they can offer.
Couples choosing to have a Sequel wedding can spread their celebration over several days or even months.
They may choose a simple two plus two ceremony at the registry office to complete the legal declarations or a small intimate celebration with close family and friends either here or abroad and then follow these with a more lavish wedding celebration to which they can invite a larger group of guests.
As the couple will be legally married when they hold the second gathering this would lend itself to having a Celebrant led ceremony, which has none of the restrictions of the legal process. So ceremonies can be held anywhere at any time.
I have been part of a number of events which would fit into the category of Sequel weddings, conducting ceremonies as part of a weekend wedding festival or when a couple have returned from abroad or simply at a time when more of their family and friends are able to be present.
An idea that may be worth considering ?
When choosing the right Celebrant to led your ceremony my advice would be to contact several people and see who you connect with best.
Always ask about the training they have undertaken as there is currently no regulations governing the standards required to become a Celebrant.
I believe that every ceremony should be created to reflect my couples and tell their story. I
Choosing a Celebrant to help you create that special ceremony is an important step towards making your occasion a really memorable one. Why not take advantage of the free initial meeting I offer ? I believe it is important to meet informally to discuss your ideas and what I can offer. Meeting also gives us an opportunity to explore the type of ceremony that would best suit your needs.